When I first started learning about Narcissists and Narcissistic Abuse, I found the answers to most of my questions on Quora. One of the answers I bookmarked back then is one I think all survivors should read. The author is Veronica Welles, and her link is below. How Does Hatred Show In A Covert Narcissist? Right from the start, before they get to show you any of their ugly faces and sabotaging deeds, they already show their hate in the most subtle ways by seizing control of your agency in everything they do. Everything they did right from the start … Continue reading How Does Hatred Show In A Covert Narcissist?
Should You Ever Make Contact With The New Supply When Your Narcissist Ex Is Still Trying To Make Contact? I don’t recommend it for a couple of reasons, based on my own experience. When I first started dating my now-ex-husband, the wife he was divorcing tried to warn me about him. Since he had already convinced me that she was crazy, I didn’t believe her. I also told him everything she said, which gave him sadistic pleasure and made him feel powerful. This is one of the ways a narcissist triangulates victims. Years later, and with the benefit of hindsight, … Continue reading Quora Answers By Serena Prince
I didn’t think I would ever make my ex think twice about attacking me, but a few months ago, I managed to do just that. My 13-year-old son, who is autistic, and I, had been in hiding for four months. I had a restraining order against the narcissist, and he also had 2 warrants for his arrest. Still, he had been managing to stay one step ahead of the cops, and was still a free man. I had been as diligent as possible, but I knew eventually, he’d find me. And he did. At 2:00 in the morning, April 12, … Continue reading What Is The Best Way To Make A Narcissist Think Twice Before Attacking Or Abusing You?
The only possibility of having a healthy relationship with a narcissist is if the narcissist is self-aware, and is undergoing long-term intensive therapy. This is a very rare occurrence since most people with Narcissistic Personality Disorder don’t believe there’s anything wrong with them. One of the harshest truths someone in a relationship with a narcissist has to face is that their partner will never change. The toxic hope I held onto for so long in my own marriage to a Malignant Narcissist almost got me killed. I refused to believe that the man I had devoted my life to enjoyed … Continue reading Can You Have A Healthy Relationship With A Narcissist?
When my mom was dying, the Malignant Narcissist I was married to prevented me from going to her. My dad was out of town and called me to ask that I go check on her. He had been trying to call her, but didn’t get an answer. At the time, my oldest son was living with my parents. Dad called my son, who went downstairs to check on her. He was unable to wake her up, and was panicking. Dad was obviously terrified himself, so I immediately reached for my car keys. The Narcissist grabbed them before I could, and … Continue reading Did Your Narcissist Offer Any Emotional Support When Your Loved One Was Dying?
During my 18-year marriage to a Malignant Narcissist I tried many different tactics to try to get him to stop being verbally abusive. Nothing seemed to have the effect I was hoping for. He would say the absolute worst things to me in front of our son. He called me the worst names and accused me of despicable acts. Reminding him that our child shouldn’t be exposed to such vile words only seemed to encourage him to continue. Ignoring him generally resulted in him becoming physically violent. Finally, though, I said the magic words that stopped him cold. Ironically, it … Continue reading What’s Something You Could Say To A Malignant Narcissist To Make Them Stop Verbally Abusing You?
I used to wish I’d never met my Malignant Narcissist ex. But that was before I realized how strong I became in the aftermath of our relationship. Don’t get me wrong. It sucks to go through the chaos that life with a narc brings. It sucks to have everything you’ve ever believed about people be proven wrong in such horrific ways. Of course it does. But it’s going to still suck no matter what. It’s better to have gained SOMETHING from all that hell. When I started to realize how much strength I’d gained, I began to think of other … Continue reading Do You Wish You Had Never Met Your Narcissist Ex?
If the past predicts the future, the likelihood of my Malignant Narcissist ex moving on after being released from jail is slim to none. Of course, the circumstances in my case may be different from yours. For one thing, he blames me for his most recent incarceration. I pressed charges against him after he cracked my skull and injured our autistic son. As is typical of a narcissist, he considered himself blameless. In his mind, I provoked him into the rage that caused him to lash out. It wouldn’t have happened if I hadn’t been such a bitch. But it … Continue reading What Is The Chance The Narcissistic Ex Will Move On After Being Released From Jail?