Quora Answers: Narcissists And Revenge

Why Does The Narcissist Want Revenge Thats Never-Ending? Why Can’t They Just Admit Defeat And Move On? A narcissist won’t admit defeat because then you would be winning. And you can’t win!! Not in their minds, anyway. Narcissists have to be right. For you to win would mean the Narcissist was wrong. The carefully-crafted facade would crumble. And all the lies would be exposed for the world to see. It’s like they’re desperately trying to avoid a Narcissistic Collapse. Getting revenge, if not completely destroying you, is how they’re able to do it. That’s why they stop at nothing to … Continue reading Quora Answers: Narcissists And Revenge

Do Narcissists Plan Their Vile Attacks On People?

Yes, they do. That was one of the hardest things for me to comprehend when I began my journey to healing from Narcissistic Abuse. I’ve had plenty of experience with Narcissists throughout my life, both Overt & Covert. And I … Continue reading Do Narcissists Plan Their Vile Attacks On People?

Quora Answers: Narcissists And Mirroring

Why Do Narcissists Mirror Their Partners With Great Intensity? During the Idealization phase, Narcissists mirror their partners in order to create an immediate bond of trust and familiarity. They claim to have all the same interests, beliefs, and desires as their target. They quickly become “the one,” somebody who truly understands everything about you. While you open up about your hopes, dreams, fears, and weaknesses, the Narcissist claims to feel exactly the same way. Meanwhile, he’s listening and taking mental notes. All of these things will be used as ammunition against you during the Devaluation phase. The goal for the … Continue reading Quora Answers: Narcissists And Mirroring

Quora Answers: Your Pain Is The Narcissist’s Pleasure

If You Cry In Front Of Your Narcissist, Does This Affect The Way They Treat You? Does It Affect Them At All? Oh, it affects them, alright. But probably not how you’d think. And definitely not the way a normal person would react. My Malignant Narcissist ex-husband got off on making me cry. Literally. Bringing me to tears was like the equivalent of discovering The Holy Grail. He actually became sexually aroused when he was able to evoke such a reaction from me. I’m not a crybaby, by any means, but when my anger or frustration pass a certain point, … Continue reading Quora Answers: Your Pain Is The Narcissist’s Pleasure

Processing Pain Is Necessary In Order To Heal From Narcissistic Abuse

Quora Answers: May I Ask Your Advice? I’m Having A Really Bad Time After Being Discarded By My Narcissist Ex, And I Just Now Realized He’s A Narcissist. First and foremost, have mercy on yourself. Understand that you are not to blame for being conned by a narcissist. So many people who have never been entwined in a narcissist’s web of lies falsely believe that it wouldn’t happen to them. They are dead wrong. It can happen to anybody. Prepare yourself mentally for pain. Think about what you’re going to go through on your path to recovery in the same … Continue reading Processing Pain Is Necessary In Order To Heal From Narcissistic Abuse

Quora Answers: Narcissists And Serial Infidelity

Is Infidelity A Given When It Comes To A Narcissist? If So, Why? When it comes to a narcissist, infidelity is a given. It is a fact of life that narcissists are serial cheaters. If you’re in a relationship with a narcissist, this is a painful concept to grasp. But denial won’t make it less true. One of the reasons Narcissists cheat is because of their unquenchable thirst for Narcissistic Supply. They have multiple sources in order to keep a steady flow of adoration, attention, and praise. Narcissists aren’t hindered by morals or values, and see nothing wrong with their … Continue reading Quora Answers: Narcissists And Serial Infidelity

Quora Answers: The Aging Narcissist

Does A Narcissist’s Behavior Get Worse With Age? The narcissists I’ve known certainly got worse with age. Much worse. I’ve read reports from psychologists who claim the opposite to be true. Their opinions are that narcissists mellow with age. I disagree wholeheartedly. When a person with NPD begins to age, their human bodies may slow them down. Inside their devious minds, however, they don’t mellow. If anything, they become more bitter and miserable. My Malignant Narc ex-husband is a perfect example of going from bad to worse with age. Over the years, he became more and more abusive and downright … Continue reading Quora Answers: The Aging Narcissist

Quora Answers: Narcissists, Holidays, And Covert Sabotage

Why Do Narcissistic Mates Set Out To Destroy Holidays And Birthdays? My BD Is Tomorrow And My Narc Started An Argument Yesterday So He Can Give Me The Silent Treatment On My Birthday. It’s a form of covert sabotage. His goal is to ruin your happiness and keep the attention on himself. Narcissists are very jealous. For example, you have to attend a work event because you’re getting an award. The narcissist may hide your car keys, or “accidentally” spill a drink on your thank-you speech. Anything to wreak havoc on your joy. If you’re looking forward to seeing your … Continue reading Quora Answers: Narcissists, Holidays, And Covert Sabotage