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I Know How Murder Victims Feel Before They Die


I can still hear the excitement in my husband’s voice, telling me his plans for that day. His gun was holstered on his hip, and he was holding a large machete, hand-crafted for me. Or more specifically, for my death.

“Are you listening to me, bitch? I’m going to kill you today. But I’m not doing it here. You know that field by the lake in Mer Rouge? I’m taking you there, and I’m going to blow your pretty little head off. Then I’m going to cut your body up and feed you to the fish.”


I was on the floor, hands tied behind my back, dazed from a blow to the head. His fist came out of nowhere, knocking me out cold. Before that, we were getting along fine, and I was struggling to comprehend what was happening.

“Let’s go. I’ve waited a long time for this,” he said, as he snatched me up by the hair. He dragged me through the house, kicking and screaming. Without the use of my arms, I knew I didn’t stand a chance, but I wasn’t about to make it any easier for him.

Once he got me outside, he forced me into the back seat of my SUV. Then he smashed his fist into my head, and once again, rendered me unconscious.

A Nightmare That Won’t Wake


“Wake up and listen to me, Serena.This truck is mine now, since you’re about to be dead, so I really don’t want to shoot you in here. But I will, if you try to do something stupid.

You better think about Colton. Remember, I’ll be the one taking him to school from now on.You don’t want him seeing your blood and brains splattered everywhere, do you? So just stay still and be a good girl. Now is probably a good time to start saying your prayers.”

Never in my life had I been so afraid. My teeth chattered, and my body trembled uncontrollably. Paralyzed by fear, I took his advice and began to pray.

“Hey Serena, do you remember those big turtles I showed you, last time we were at the lake? I’m feeding most of you to them. Won’t be anything left, either. Cause if the turtles miss anything, the fish’ll get it.

Do you know what I mean? The turtles and fish are gonna eat you, and I’m gonna eat them. It’s like I’m eating you myself. What do you think about that? It’s funny, isn’t it?”

He said these things as if we were having a casual conversation. His jovial tone made the words even more chilling, and I couldn’t stop the tears from flowing.


I was devastated for my son, Colton. He’s autistic, and very dependent on me. My death would be so hard for him. And I thought about my daughter, Savannah, who died at birth. At least I was finally going to meet her. It was ironic that I had to die to get away from the devil.

“Are you scared? You should be. I know I told you to pray, but it won’t do any good. God’s not listening to you. He already knows you’re going straight to hell. When you get there, tell your momma I said hi.”

That day still haunts me sometimes. What saved my life was his desire not to go to jail for kidnapping and murder. Driving to the lake, he remembered the security cameras I’d gotten installed.

It had briefly crossed my mind, but I assumed he turned them off before throwing the first punch.Thank God, I was wrong.


October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month.

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How Do I Know If My Husband Is A Narcissist?


My husband has all the signs of being a Narcissist, but is caring to our son. Could it be something else? What kind of therapist should we go to?

Originally Answered On Quora.


If your husband is a Narcissist, your son is probably the golden child. I’m basing my answer on that being the case.


Growing up, my oldest son was the golden child of my first husband, a Covert Narcissist. Tyler was blessed with both physical beauty and intelligence. His father saw this as his crowning achievement, and bragged, unashamedly, about his amazing child.


The narc put Tyler on a pedestal, showered him with gifts, and refused to discipline him.
If I tried to correct our son, his father became enraged, and belittled me in front of the child. (We divorced before Tyler was four.)


Golden children are held to unreasonable standards, and Tyler fell short of perfection. By the time he was ten, the narc verbally abused him regularly. He’s an adult now, and unfortunately, a Narcissist himself.


As far as therapy, I don’t recommend going with a Narcissist. They turn everything around on you and triangulate you and the counselor. Instead, go for individual counseling with someone who specializes in treating Narcissistic Abuse.


If you’re still not sure if your husband is a Narcissist, the following list should help you decide. Keep in mind that no Narcissist has all these traits, and the list is not scientific. It’s what I’ve observed over the years in my own relationships with Narcissists.



32 Warning Signs You’re In A Relationship With A Narcissist

*Please Note: The use of masculine pronouns is for the sake of simplicity. Narcissists can be male or female.

  1. You fell in love quickly and were soon together almost constantly.
  2. At the beginning of the relationship, you had the same interests, likes, and dislikes. You believed him to be your soulmate.
  3. As time passed, the things you had in common changed dramatically. He no longer liked the same music, movies, etc.
  4. His ex is a crazy, jealous stalker who is still in love with him.
  5. He whines and complains about trivial things.
  6. He’s rude to waitstaff and people he deems to have no value.
  7. He’s extremely self-centered and only wants to talk about himself.
  8. He manages to find fault with everybody and calls people vile names.
  9. He completely lacks empathy.
  10. Because he doesn’t approve of your friends and family, you rarely see them anymore.
  11. He’s never wrong about anything and thinks he’s smarter than everyone else.
  12. He refuses to take responsibility for his actions and never apologizes for anything.
  13. His stories don’t add up, to the point of being ludicrous.
  14. He may claim to have skills and talents beyond human capability.
  15. When he smiles, it doesn’t reach his eyes.
  16. He makes a lot of promises but rarely, if ever, keeps them.
  17. His actions and words don’t match. He says he loves you, but he treats you like a nuisance or afterthought.
  18. He often disappears for days at a time for no apparent reason. When he returns, he offers no explanation for his whereabouts.
  19. When he’s with his friends he seems to always lose his phone, forget it somewhere, or have a dead battery.
  20. He becomes enraged if you point out discrepancies in his stories and accuses you of twisting his words.
  21. He is extremely hypocritical.
  22. He gossips about his friends, family, and acquaintances in a backstabbing manner
  23. He accuses you of horrible, immoral behaviors and actions.
  24. He acts loving and caring one minute but instantly turns on you.
  25. He thinks household chores are beneath him and expects you to clean up after him.
  26. You can never get him to resolve issues. You politely explain your position but he turns the conversation into a recap of your faults and mistakes.
  27. He’s cruel to animals and children, including his own.
  28. He doesn’t respect your privacy and feels entitled to your valuables and possessions.
  29. He tells the same old stories repeatedly and expects you to listen intently every time.
  30. He abuses drugs and/or alcohol, but accuses you of being an alcoholic and/or junkie.
  31. He can’t stand to be alone and wants to be surrounded by people who stroke his ego.
  32. He deliberately puts you in situations that provoke jealousy and insecurity.

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Quora Answers: Coping After Narcissistic Abuse



How Do You Deal With Your Anger And Rage At Your Narcissist Ex For All The Destruction And Heartache He Caused?



With as many creative, and ever-evolving, coping mechanisms as my frustrated brain can come up with.

What works splendidly one day may not do shit the next time I need it. There’s really no way to know in advance what will bring me comfort. And what will just piss me off even more.

Recovering from Narcissistic Abuse is a fickle process. Half the time, when I’m in a pit of despair, I don’t even know why.

I’ll have no clue what caused my sudden by descent into hopelessness. Not understanding why I’m miserable prevents me from knowing how to process my emotions.

Or even what emotions need processing.

If you had asked me this question a month ago, my answer would’ve been different. Because a month ago, I thought I had this shit figured out.

I took pride in offering advice to other survivors. I had learned so much, and come so far, from the broken person I had been.

I was proud of my newfound inner strength. My life was good. And I was content to just be me.

But oh, how far the mighty fall.

In the blink of an eye, and with no warning, I reverted to the broken, scared shell of my previous self.

All the months of hard work to build up my self-respect . . .

All the strides I’d made to be a survivor, instead of a victim, disappeared in an instant.

I found myself broken again, for no apparent reason. And I was powerless to do anything about it.

It was exactly like the first couple of weeks after going No Contact. Like when I went through withdrawal from the trauma bonds. And when I felt paralyzed by the C-PTSD.

The confusion, the doubts, the fears I thought I’d overcome, jumped up and bit me in the ass.

I’d managed to survive it all before. But I didn’t think I could do it again.

I didn’t want to do it again.

For almost two weeks, I couldn’t find the strength or desire to even consider trying. So I dropped out of living for a while.

I did nothing but wallow in self-pity. And wonder how I had ended up back in hell.

Finally the fog began to lift, and I could form rational thoughts. Once I was able to think clearly, I tried to self-reflect.

For the life of me, I couldn’t figure out what had happened to cause the breakdown. So I started reading my Quora answers, blog posts, and journals.

It was like someone else had written them. And I was reading it all for the first time.

I re-educated myself on manipulation techniques used by narcissists. Things started to click until the aha moments became overwhelming.

I had almost done it again. Almost fallen into a narcissist’s trap. Again.

Despite knowing better, I’d been ignoring the warning signs. My gut had been trying to tell my heart what my head already knew.

My dad is a Covert Narcissist.

He had been actively trying to suck me back into the chaos and drama he always provides.

With acceptance came anger. New rage mixed with old rage, and I felt like I would explode.

I knew I needed to allow myself to feel the pain, in order to exorcise that particular demon. Only then would I be able to move on.

I did a good bit of crying for a day or so. Then, just as suddenly as the darkness had come over me, it evaporated.

With that episode behind me, I see that I still have a lot of healing to do. But I find comfort in the realization that I can protect myself now.

Because knowledge really is power.



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WHY DOES A NARCISSIST CONSTANTLY TALK ABOUT THEIR EXES?

The reason a narcissist constantly talks about their exes is because they are choreographing your present and future behavior.

A narcissist conditions his sources in various ways by using his or her ex as an
example of what not to do.

They use indirect persuasion by seeming to flatter their target with words like:

“My ex used to get so jealous of my guy friends. I’m so glad you aren’t like that.”

“My ex didn’t like for me to go anywhere with my friends, not even hunting. But you know how much hunting means to me, and you don’t mind if I go. In fact, you encourage me to go! You’re the best!!’

“My ex got fat after we got married. She just let herself go, and didn’t care about trying to impress me anymore. But you’re so slim and fit!! I absolutely love your body. I never get tired of it.”

These are just a few examples of what is easily mistaken as flattery. Remember, at the beginning of the relationship you weren’t suspicious of this person. You had no reason to suspect a hidden motive.

Far from being flattery, these are actually commands. Ways to make you conform to their idea of an ideal partner.

Because you will now try to meet these demands. You’ll go to great lengths not to show that you’re hurt when he disappears for 3 days, “hunting” with his friends.

Or you don’t complain when she goes to lunch with her guy friends every day.

And you constantly stay on a diet and work out every day to maintain your figure.

You do these things because you don’t want to be like the ex. You weren’t aware of the subtle way the narcissist threatened to leave you if you became like the ex.

But your subconscious picked it up.

So you make herculean efforts to be sure the narcissist doesn’t leave you too. And you act the way you were conditioned by the narc to act.



Originally Answered By Serena Prince On Quora.

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SERENA’S SITE RULES FOR VISITORS

I’m not really a big fan of rules, but I feel like I better at least have some basic guidelines for this site. That way anybody who stops by will have an idea of what they’re getting into.

Let me go ahead and say this upfront:

IF YOU ARE EASILY OFFENDED, LEAVE NOW‼️

DO NOT PASS GO. THERE IS NO $200 TO COLLECT BECAUSE I’M POOR.

SO JUST HEED THIS WARNING AND EXIT IMMEDIATELY‼️

If you’re still here, you’re very brave.😂😂

My Rules:


1.) NO JACKASSES ALLOWED.

(Not To Be Confused With Regular Ole Donkeys. Cause Donkeys Are Welcome Here.)


2.) TWISTED SENSE OF HUMOR REQUIRED.


3.) PERVERTS ARE ALLOWED.

But Will Be Banned If They Send Me A Picture of Their Peckers.



4.) MUST ADMIRE BOTH ME AND 💋💋 SEXYERMA .💋💋



5.) NO 👺PESKY NARCISSISTS👺 ALLOWED.



6.) SARCASM IS REQUIRED, ENCOURAGED, AND APPRECIATED.



7. LOVE OF LAUGHTER REQUIRED.


8.) NO SWEEPING. I’M STILL TRAUMATIZED FROM THE TIME I SWEPT UP GRANDPA FRED.



9.) MUST BE WILLING TO EITHER DO SOME SHADY SHIT, OR AT LEAST LAUGH WHEN I DO SHADY SHIT.

10.) MUST COMPREHEND THIS FACT AND EMBRACE MY TWISTEDNESS.