Narcissists do some pretty insane things to make you doubt your sanity. They want to push you over the edge, so they alter your reality. It’s a way to pass their negative feelings on to you. For people who treasure a sound mind, it’s pure hell.
To make you feel crazy, Narcissists use sabotage, gaslighting, and other manipulation techniques that are almost impossible to identify. This causes erratic behavior, and a pervasive sense of unreality. Gradually, you’re questioning your memory, and not trusting your instincts.
Feeling Unhinged? That Was Always the Narcissist’s Plan
Narcissists get really creative with ways to abuse you. A common tactic is to tell you certain things during a conversation. Then later, they deny ever having said it.
You never know what’s going to happen next, so you walk around on eggshells. Sometimes, they move furniture, only to move it back, after they know you’ve seen it. Mention it to them, and they say you’re imagining things.
They damage your clothes, hide your keys, and siphon gas out of your car. If you question them, they tell you it didn’t happen.
You can’t possibly explain it to other people. Hell, you can’t even nail it down in your own mind. But you know something’s going on. If only you could figure out what.
You wonder how the couch got on top of the kitchen table. And you know the cable box was on the TV. So, how did it end up in the refrigerator? It’s not like you can ask anybody. You’re no longer sure which one of you is crazy, but you think it might be you.
Until I Married A Narcissist, I Took Mental Stability For Granted.
Mental stability was something I never used to think much about. My own, anyway. I just took for granted that I was sane. I might’ve joked about being crazy. But I didn’t actually believe it.
Marriage to a Narcissist changed all that. By the time it ended, a once-confident, independent woman was unrecognizable. In her place was a lost soul who constantly walked on eggshells.
It was like being shipwrecked on a deserted island, with no hope of rescue. And no chance of long-term survival. Let me tell you, that was a very sad and lonely place to be. I wouldn’t wish it on my worst enemy.
Did That Really Happen, Or Am I Losing My Mind?
One morning, the wall in the laundry room was a different color. That afternoon, it was back to normal. I didn’t think much about it at first. I just assumed I was mistaken. That’s how much I no longer trusted my reality!
The next day, it happened again. So, I asked the narc about it. I already felt silly bringing it up. It sounded ridiculous, even to me. He denied it, and told me that my cheese had obviously fallen off my cracker.
A few times, out of the blue, he slapped me across the face. Then he screamed at me for hitting him. I just stood there, dumbfounded, thinking that I’d lost my mind awfully fast. And wondering where it had gone in such a hurry.
Narcissists Don’t Change, So Get Out While You Can.
If any of this sounds familiar, you should know it’ll only get worse. Narcissists don’t change for the better, other than becoming better abusers. Take what’s left of your mind, and carry your ass. Before you find yourself checking into the loony bin.