Narcissists Want To Make You Feel Crazy.
Narcissists do some pretty insane things to make you doubt your sanity. They want to be the one to push you off the edge, so they try to destabilize you by altering your reality. It’s a way to pass their own negative feelings on to you. For people who treasure a sound mind, it’s pure hell.
To make you feel crazy, Narcissists use sabotage, gaslighting, and manipulation techniques that are almost impossible to identify. Besides causing you to doubt your sanity, these methods cause erratic behavior, and leave you with a pervasive sense of unreality.
A common tactic is to tell you certain things, then later, deny the entire conversation. Narcissists get really creative with the ways they abuse you, and you never know what’s going to happen next.
Sometimes, they move furniture around, only to move it back, Or they damage your clothes, hide your keys, and siphon gas out of your car. If you question them, they not only deny being the culprit, they deny that the incident even took place.
You can’t possibly explain it to other people. You can’t even nail it down in your own mind, but you know something’s going on. If only you could put your finger on it.
You wonder why somebody would put the couch right in front of the door, only to move it back. And you know the cable box was on top of the TV. So, how did it end up in the refrigerator?
Feeling Unhinged? That Was Their Plan All Along.
None of it makes sense, and you try to figure out why someone would do those things. Then you think, what things? Nobody else saw what you think happened.
So, did it actually happen, or are you going off the deep end? You’re no longer sure which one of you is crazy, but you’re starting to think it might be you.
Until I Married A Narcissist, I Took Mental Stability For Granted.
My mental stability was something I never used to think much about. I just took it for granted that I was sane. Like many people, I often joked about being crazy. But I didn’t actually believe it.
Marriage to a Narcissist changed all that. By the time it ended, the once-confident, independent woman I’d been, was unrecognizable. In her place was a lost and isolated soul, terrified of her own shadow.
It was like being shipwrecked on a deserted island, with no hope of rescue, and no chance of long-term survival. Let me tell you, that was one very sad, lonely place to be. I wouldn’t wish it on my worst enemy.
Did That Really Happen, Or Am I Losing My Mind?
One morning, a wall in the laundry room was painted a slightly different color. When I got home that afternoon, the wall was back to its original hue. I didn’t think much about it at first. I just assumed I was mistaken.
But it happened again the following day. So, I asked the narc about it, feeling silly since it sounded ridiculous. He denied it, of course, and told me that my cheese had obviously fallen off my cracker.
A few times, he slapped me across the face, then immediately started yelling at me for hitting him. I just stood there, dumbfounded, thinking that I’d managed to lose my mind awfully fast. And wondering where it had gone in such a hurry.
Narcissists Don’t Change, So Get Out While You Can.
If any of this sounds familiar, you should know that it’ll only get worse. Narcissists don’t change for the better. It’s best to take what’s left of your mind, and carry your ass. Before you find yourself checking into the loony bin.