Could A Narcissist Idealize A New Target Without Actually Love-bombing Them?
Love-bombing is just another term used to describe the idealization phase in a narcissistic relationship.
All narcissistic relationships follow the same patterns and consist of three stages: idealization, devaluation, and discard.
Many people are unaware that narcissists sometimes shorten these stages.
Narcissists always have multiple sources for narcissistic supply.
The primary source is usually a spouse or long-time boyfriend or girlfriend.
Their main function is to give the narcissist regular attention and admiration.
They are also the ones who receive the most brutal forms of narcissistic abuse.
Then there are multiple secondary sources who also provide narcissistic supply.
But not quite as regularly as the primary source.
This group generally consists of recycled exes and “friends with benefits.”
The third group is made up of tertiary sources.
These are the occasional flings or one-time bed partners picked up at random.
When a narcissist is between stable relationships, he will select what is known as a transitional target.
These sources are subjected to a much shorter and less intense idealization phase.
The victim will not be aware that the relationship is going to be a very short one.
The narcissist, however, knows from the beginning.
He’s keenly aware that he’s merely waiting for something better to come along as his primary source.
This particular victim will not be showered with gifts or receive special treatment.
She will hear beautiful words and lovely promises.
But never see any actions that back up what she’s being told.
As soon as the narcissist finds his next primary source, the transitional target will be abruptly discarded without a second glance.
Because the relationship was temporary, she will never see the warning signs that something is wrong.
She’s treated to an especially cruel and unforeseen discard.
And her devastation will be equally brutal.
*Originally Answered On Quora.
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