What Is The Best Way To Make A Narcissist Think Twice Before Attacking Or Abusing You?
I didn’t think I would ever make my ex think twice about attacking me. But a few months ago, I managed to do just that.
My 13-year-old autistic son and I had been in hiding for four months. I had a restraining order against the narcissist, and he also had two warrants for his arrest.
He’d managed to stay one step ahead of the cops, and was still a free man.
Although I’d been diligent about safety, I knew eventually, he’d find us.
And he did.
It was two in the morning, April 12, 2019. I couldn’t sleep, so I started cleaning the kitchen.
I took the garbage outside and had one more bag to take out. I left the side door unlocked for less than two minutes. But that’s all it took.
The door suddenly opened, and the monster waltzed in like he owned the place. I screamed.
He laughed, with a maniacal look in his eyes, and I knew I was in trouble. Fortunately, my son and I had a safety plan.
The narcissist’s arrogance led him to underestimate our desire to stay free of him. We knew this day was coming, and we’d prepared ourselves for it.
When the monster forced me into my bedroom, Colton followed our safety plan and got help.
It was pretty terrifying for a while. I had no way of knowing if Colton was even awake, much less if he was getting help.
Some really ugly things happened in my room that night. I can’t accurately describe the terror I felt.
I didn’t let the narcissist see it, though. I refused to give him that particular thrill. He might’ve had control of my body at the time. But he would never again control my mind.
Here Comes The Calvary
It was truly a beautiful sight to watch the monster being escorted to a squad car in handcuffs.
My son is a true hero. When the police placed the narc under arrest, they found his knife.
Nothing else. No wallet or keys. Just a very large hunting knife.
Later, I went through the SUV he’d driven to my apartment. He’d stolen it from me before he went on the lam.
I found a loaded 9 mm pistol with a bullet in the chamber and an extra clip. The bullets were the kind that can pierce armor. I have no doubt that several had been intended for me.
Despite the severity of his crimes, the monster only spent four months in jail. Without my consent, he was allowed to plead guilty to reduced charges. The protective order remains in effect.
I’m sure he’ll think twice before trying to attack me again. But he is a narcissist, after all, so it won’t stop him.
He’ll try again. Colton and I have to live with that knowledge. We just no longer let that knowledge keep us from living.