Quora Answers: Narcissistic Abuse Is Intentional
Quora Answers: Narcissistic Abuse Is Intentional

Quora Answers: Narcissistic Abuse Is Intentional

Alt=What many people fail to understand is that the narcissist’s behavior is intentional, sadistic , and premeditated .

What Is The Best Way To Make A Narcissist Think Twice Before Attacking Or Abusing You?



I didn’t think I would ever make my ex think twice about attacking me. But a few months ago, I managed to do just that.

My 13-year-old autistic son and I had been in hiding for four months. I had a restraining order against the narcissist, and he also had two warrants for his arrest.

He’d managed to stay one step ahead of the cops, and was still a free man.

Although I’d been diligent about safety, I knew eventually, he’d find us.

And he did.

It was two in the morning, April 12, 2019. I couldn’t sleep, so I started cleaning the kitchen.

I took the garbage outside and had one more bag to take out. I left the side door unlocked for less than two minutes. But that’s all it took.

The door suddenly opened, and the monster waltzed in like he owned the place. I screamed.

He laughed, with a maniacal look in his eyes, and I knew I was in trouble. Fortunately, my son and I had a safety plan.

The narcissist’s arrogance led him to underestimate our desire to stay free of him. We knew this day was coming, and we’d prepared ourselves for it.

When the monster forced me into my bedroom, Colton followed our safety plan and got help.

It was pretty terrifying for a while. I had no way of knowing if Colton was even awake, much less if he was getting help.

Some really ugly things happened in my room that night. I can’t accurately describe the terror I felt.

I didn’t let the narcissist see it, though. I refused to give him that particular thrill. He might’ve had control of my body at the time. But he would never again control my mind.


Here Comes The Calvary


It was truly a beautiful sight to watch the monster being escorted to a squad car in handcuffs.

My son is a true hero. When the police placed the narc under arrest, they found his knife.

Nothing else. No wallet or keys. Just a very large hunting knife.

Later, I went through the SUV he’d driven to my apartment. He’d stolen it from me before he went on the lam.

I found a loaded 9 mm pistol with a bullet in the chamber and an extra clip. The bullets were the kind that can pierce armor. I have no doubt that several had been intended for me.


Despite the severity of his crimes, the monster only spent four months in jail. Without my consent, he was allowed to plead guilty to reduced charges. The protective order remains in effect.

I’m sure he’ll think twice before trying to attack me again. But he is a narcissist, after all, so it won’t stop him.

He’ll try again. Colton and I have to live with that knowledge. We just no longer let that knowledge keep us from living.


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2 Comments

  1. I’m not offended at all by your words, and am grateful that you took the time to comment.
    I was married to this man for 18 years. Throughout the marriage I held onto the belief that he just had anger management problems, abandonment issues, and was abused as a child. I desperately wanted to believe that his actions weren’t intentional and that he would change somehow.
    Even after he tried to kill me, I forgave him.

    Turns out that he is a sadistic Malignant Narcissist, and the only thing he was sorry about was that he didn’t succeed in killing me.
    I had to come to terms with the fact that if I stayed in the marriage, I would end up dead. So I got out, and have been working on forgiving someone who isn’t sorry.
    That’s easier said than done. I do pray for him, but I will always keep my distance from now on.
    Again, thank you for your comments!! Xoxo

  2. As much as I’d like to say that this person who abused you is to be condemned, destroyed, eaten alive by whatever nightmare could be thrown at them…

    I’d still like to say that this person who abused you, did not wake up one day and was this way.

    These distorted mindsets develop over time. I’m not as experienced as you seem to be in these subjects. All I do is think, and perhaps think too much.

    I tend to try to understand somebody, or somebody’s way of thinking. Every mindset develops over time, and I do know that a descent down into a Hellish mindset is a far shorter process, than a rise towards wisdom and maturity. I also believe that no matter how much darkness one has thrown, like a quilt, over their own remorse, there’s always a part of that person who wants to say, “I am sorry for all I’ve done.”

    I don’t know if the same is true for you, though such Narcissists are also people who experience immense pain, within themselves. Am I feeling sorry for them? I indeed am, because their victims, like you, are just as much affected by their actions, as their actions are affecting them; though, they don’t display remorse, because each terrible action such people commit, is like tossing dirt onto something that is treated like it is dead. Trying to ignore something that should be treated for its life, for its beauty, is something that a Narcissist or anyone else with a disturbed personality, is doing to themselves, as much as they do against other people.

    I find that it takes FAR more strength to forgive, than it takes to simply walk away from such people.

    I also hope that my words didn’t offend, as I know this is a deep subject for anyone having personally experienced it.

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