Most survivors agree that it takes an average of 12–18 months after the end of a psychopathic, or narcissistic, relationship to begin to feel normal.
Even after that length of time, there may be days when a survivor feels depressed or sad without fully understanding why.
There are many reasons why this happens.
A lot depends on the length of the relationship and the degree of abuse the victim suffered.
Another factor is the individual survivor’s commitment to self-healing. And their desire to thrive, as opposed to merely surviving.
After only three months, you haven’t had enough time to heal.
You’re probably still trying to come to terms with the fact that you were with a narcissist.
Have mercy on yourself. Allow your mind, body, and spirit enough time to regenerate.
There’s no way to rush the hard work and gut-wrenching self-reflection required to heal. And it’s something only you can do.
I’m not going to kid you, it is tough.
But very much worth the effort. Even then, there will be triggers that slap you in the face occasionally.
I had a minor meltdown myself last week.
I came across a picture that was taken a couple of months after having 3 disks in my neck replaced by a neurosurgeon.
My Malignant Narcissist then-husband had thrown me onto our back deck in a violent rage. The result was 3 herniated, or ruptured, disks.
The surgeon had to cut the front of my neck, leaving an ugly scar, where none had been. Not to mention the pain and suffering I endured because of the narc’s actions.
Seeing that picture sent me into a tailspin of long-held anger and rage.
Hatred and sadness.
It seemed like I was going to explode if I didn’t scream and kick at something.
So I went to the gym and kick-boxed. I beat the crap out of a punching bag. I released as much of the pent-up anger as possible.
Then I took a shower and cried like a baby.
I allowed myself as long as I needed, which was a pretty long time. But getting it out released the burden that had been on my heart.
I came to the realization that one of the biggest reasons it takes so long to heal from narcissistic abuse is because there’s so much to heal from.
I wish you the best.
Originally Answered by Serena Prince on Quora.
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